I feel like some married women I have come into contact with have little respect for their husbands. I hate to judge, but I feel like this is a pretty common (yet horrible!) problem. If you don't struggle with this now, you might struggle with it in the future or you might have already struggled with it in the past. Maybe he has a problem or a flaw that you have a hard time coping with. Trust me, I've had problems with my husband that, for a time, made it hard to be a sweet loving wife to him.
BUT...
If you feel like your husband is not doing his part in the relationship, that does not give you the "O.K." to stop doing you're part. If you're a Christian, you should believe that holding bitterness in your heart regarding your husband is not what God wants you to do. If you are not a christian, you should believe that it isn't the right thing to do.
If your husband works hard to support you, then he deserves you to treat him with respect. Even if you don't feel like he is being "the man", as I said before, this doesn't give you the "O.K" to not be a loving wife.
Let's get real, as soon as you get married, you wont all of the sudden learn how to cook and clean like Martha Stuart. You don't suddenly turn into Suzie Home-maker. I am the farthest thing from it. Honestly, who has that kind of time? Not me. BUT, I think trying to do what you can do shows respect for your husband. Trying to learn new things and better yourself is a loving thing to do. Better-ing yourself is the most loving, selfless, and respectful thing you can do (in my opinion).
In my opinion:
DO's: Treat him like a MAN. That is how you are supposed to treat him.
DONT'S: Publicly complain about him whether it be in person or facebook. That is the most disrespectful thing you can do. And it doesn't put you in a good light either.
Something I read:
"Begin today to respect your husband in thought, word, and deed. He will be more willing and able to give you the love and affection you need if he is respected and admired. When I began to respect my husband, he was skeptical at first. However as he saw that I was committed to change, he began to treat me differently—lovingly. Ask the Lord to strengthen you as you obey His word." (from marriagemissions.com)
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